I came across the following quote on a site one of my roommates recommended. Whoever originally wrote this is a friggin' genius!
A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.
The amount of times this has happened to me is ridiculous. Now, I am more apt to quite frankly leave the friendship than try to put feelings aside and maintain things. Shit happens. What's the alternative, the girl IF she's considerate won't blather left and right about whatever new flavor of the month. If she's inconsiderate the guy has to deal with the patterns of bullshit, and there are generally very predictable patterns of bullshit. A veritable trail of bullshit leading from one doomed relationship to the next. Or you have to interact with someone, oft times rather closely who doesn't feel the same way you do. And that sucks ass. What's worse a broken heart every time you meet, one last breaking of the heart when you part ways.
Posted by tony at July 4, 2005 2:43 AM